February 2012
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You didn't thank me for punching you in the face →
If you haven’t already read this article, please do. It’s so true, we’re telling little kids (the article focuses on little girls, but in my experience, the problem runs both ways) that physical and verbal harassment are forms of acceptable affection. What the what? Parents, teachers, childcare workers, this is a great reminder to be cognizant of the subtext in what we tell the...
Grady Mitchell: Beginning →
My boy (and most handsomest friend) Grady is tumbling. He probably has three times the amount of followers as me already. He writes as pretty as his face.
jeffmcallister:
My boy (and colleague) Mr. Mitchell is joining the tumblin’ game. This passage, taken from a piece on Mikael Kennedy, is a strong start. You can basically see the desk on which this was written — coated in Capote and Polaroids...
If you have to say “Not to be racist, but…”
You are about to say something racist. Same goes for sexist/classist/etc. Your disclaimer does not make it okay. Obviously.
A few useful quotes to be bookmarked into the feminist logbook:
”Born on third base and thinking they hit a home run.”
Saw this somewhere on a Jezebel comment board and know I’ll be using it again and again. I can appreciate ambition and industrious work ethic, but few things irk me more than those who preach the...
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WatchDon’t care what you say, this is the best song on the album. Might cuddle up and listen to Justin croon for the rest of the day.
scout:
Bon Iver - Beth/Rest on SNL (!!)
i've got a fire burning: Consent is more than... →
dearcissexism:
livelaughawesome:
Consent is “Do you want to have sex with me?”
Consent is “Are you comfortable with being close to me?”
Consent is “Do you feel safe when you’re with me?”
Consent is “Did anybody talk you into this?”
Consent is “I know you wanted to an hour ago, but…
January 2012
14 posts
I want to be Carrie Bradshaw with an intersectional analysis. That’s the dream.
All I need is a handful of witty anecdotes, an aptitude for city-slicker metaphors paired with questions on sex and relationships, perfect hair and a closet full of Alexander McQueen. Any day now.
tumblverse
I want to continue this Sunday laziness until the end of the day. Suggestions for more fantastic blogs to follow?
dancing in clubs with boys
Hope someone got that lame grasp at a play on words in my title. I didn’t even like that book.
Having recently received my long-overdue driver’s license, I’ve been playing designated driver for my friends who have rotated through the position for the past many years. This duty requires a lot of sober club-going, an experience I liken to being part nanny, part safari guide and...
blue (bird) monday
statistically today is the worst of the year. the grossest weather, the furthest you’ll ever be from a tan, the day you realize you aren’t achieving any of your new resolutions. whatever scientists figured this out call today Blue Monday.
nope, not buying it.
there’s snow on the ground and I’m going to run through some fresh powder on the mountain tonight.
10 'Useless' Degrees (Bullshit) →
My friend Zak is a master of the thought-provoking rant. He posted this quite awhile ago but it’s really stuck with me in this tricky post-graduation transition.
zakzawaduk:
Okay, I need to rant a bit. The understanding that a degree is only worth the job it gets you afterwards is extremely problematic. It creates an influx of students at universities, negatively influencing the...
The Problem of Feminist Mental Health →
I listened to this song this morning and I teared...
“Boys are told from a young age that whatever they do will be excused under the...”
– http://yesmeansyesblog.wordpress.com/2011/01/03/the-nonexistent-terrible-horrible-no-good-very-bad-consequences-of-enthusiastic-consent/ (via zoemelisa)
Boiling frog problem. I’m going to be using that.
ryan vs. james →
oh so good. if only this actually happened.
new year, new year
I rang in the New Year with many of my favourite people, got to kiss a total babe and smashed my phone into one hundred pieces that were immediately crushed under the high heels of club goers (two out of three isn’t bad). I love making new year’s resolutions though I’m awful at keeping them. here is my list of hopelessly optimistic goals for 2012.
be more kind. 2011 wasn’t...
December 2011
21 posts
donald for spiderman
This is on a bus back from camp. I’m thirteen and so are you. Before I left for camp I imagined it would be me and three or four other dudes I hadn’t met yet, running around all summer, getting into trouble. It turned out it would be me and just one girl. That’s you. And we’re still at camp as long as we’re on the bus and not at the pickup point where our parents would be waiting for us. We’re...
Partying on New Year's Eve?
Don’t drink and drive-and don’t ride with anybody who does. Tipsy Tow offered by AAA: you don’t have to be a AAA member, from 6pm-6am on New Years Eve/day, they will take your drunk self and your car home for FREE. Save this number… 1-800-222-4357. Please reblog this if you don’t mind.
kick-back christmas
I love that my family has stopped making a big to-do of our Christmas holiday. We spend Christmas Eve with my best friend’s family, singing off-key renditions of traditional Christmas carols such as The Eagles “Hotel California.” We sleep in the next morning, eat an amazing breakfast made by my mom and open whatever is under the tree. The rest of the day is spent reading,...
sustainable procrastination: holiday edition
Who has finished their Christmas shopping for this year? Hats off to you if you have. As usual, I’m destined to spend Christmas Eve day at the mall, buying the last XL taupe sweater from The Bay that for I’ve convinced myself my pint-sized mom can wear with a belt as some sort of dress. This year however, I’m aiming to do things different.
I’ve been hearing more people...
“I realized that the quality of relationships in my life were a direct reflection...”
– (via stumblingstones)
One teachers approach to preventing gender...
I love this article because it resonates so much with my personal goals in my work with children. Toddlers are always asking ‘Why?’ but for some reason, once grade school hits, this constant curiousity is no longer fostered. It’s important to create spaces for critical examination at all ages, and particularly important to have children and youth destablize the assumptions that...
bring on the imperialistic condiments!:... →
literarycollective:
It was about halfway through the thought I wonder if other people compare themselves to other people as much as I do that I realized this had to stop.
I have got to stop putting myself up to other people’s standards, to other people’s measures and conditions and…
girl, uninterrupted
Last week my cousin asked me why I started a blog. What did I want to accomplish? He is turning 20 and is well on his way to becoming a feminist ally and meant the question genuinely.
I replied with two reasons. The first I outlined in my first post: I want a venue where I can continue writing and keep my practice accountable to an (albeit small) audience. The second is a more specific purpose—it...
THAT'S SO MAJESTIC: EPIC SELF CARE POST →
innerfatgirl:
because it’s that time of year again
youarenotyou:
Self care according to the senses:
Scent. Burn scented candles or incense. Pick some fresh flowers or herbs for your home (basil = heaven). Fry onions or garlic if it’s your thing (it’s definitely mine). If you can afford to, buy some…
Jeff McAllister:: Squashing the Fly on the Wall:... →
Jeff and I graduated from UVic’s writing department together. Our favourite topic of conversation? Ourselves. Here’s some thoughts on how we combined our love of “I” statements with our nonfiction writing.
jeffmcallister:
Despite four years of writing school, as a journalist I am ultimately self-taught. Sure there was some trickle down via my literary nonfiction...
“Twenty-two years ago, 14 women in Montreal were murdered. The next morning, when...”
– Dave Tough on the École Polytechnique Massacre. (via garconniere)
National Day of Remembrance and Action on Violence... →
Remember that ending violence starts at home. Remember that misogyny is not a thing of the past; it is not something feminists bring up to be a buzzkill or a bitch. It is often a lived reality for women-perhaps women in your community or women that you know-and 22 years ago it marked the end of 14 women’s lives at Polytechnique. Remember that hatred and violence tremors outward and effects...
pointers for a rainy day
things i’ve been doing while feeling poorly (not writing, apparently)
It hasn’t been a good week. I’ve decided to stop trying to turn it around and just sulk for a bit, hopefully using all of my bad moods until mid-2012. With my recent sickly state and embarrassingly vacant social schedule (calculated how long it’s going to take me to pay my student loan so I’ve been...
November 2011
13 posts
co-dependent woman
Unlike Paul Simon, I’ve never made a very good island. I’m more the moss that sticks onto the rock, rather than the rock itself.
I just returned to another week of work in Vancouver after an amazing weekend with my friends in Victoria. Since having moved back to the Mainland in September after five years at UVic, I’ve already been back to visit three times. This time when my friends in YVR...
preamble
Exactly how I feel after a weekend visiting Victoria. Precursor to my post for tomorrow. Now bed time.
elephant—shoes:
“You get a strange feeling when you’re about to leave a place. Like you’ll not only miss the people you love but you’ll miss the person you are now at this time and this place, because you’ll never be this way ever again.””
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Azar Nafisi